I truly thought the day and age where society views the sacred of menstruation in a negative light would be gone by now . It however appears not to be the case .Which is why I chose to write about the topic .
I was horrified to see not one but two negative commercials on tv put out by Tampax .
Both commercials have mother nature portrayed as the barer of the curse . How we are yet saved once again by a big brand company who defeats the evil giver of this curse .
Really ? Is that the road they want to go down ?
Many of us came from the background where it was viewed as exactly that a curse . In fact it was even a forbidden topic in some households along with anything relating to the reproductive and sexual hormonal changes we all encounter at some point in our adolescence .
I remember knowing my mother had her period she had pads under the sink in the bathroom . Yet the only talk or education I had was that of a very out dated film at school in grade 6 . I now find this so strange as my mother was attending a women's group at the time and read the book Our Bodies Ourselves so it is beyond me of the why she didn't speak to me . I think it is probably because the topic of sexual abuse could not have been avoided then .
I did not begin menstruation until I was 15 yrs. as did our daughters and by the time it happened I had to deal with it all on my lonesome . My mother gave me one of those elastic belts and a box of pads and that was it . I wore my hoody around my waist in case I bled through and knew it was a horrible curse if anyone were to somehow know I was experiencing my period .When I left home in my early teens I encountered the tampon via girls in my group home .I also learned other terminology such as I got my rags , she's on the rag etc.
Well entering into my early twenties into the parenting faze having two daughters I knew just as I had educated myself regarding pregnancy and birth I was not going to repeat the history of keeping this a forbidden topic .
We chose to be open about reproduction with our children , they attended the home births of their siblings etc.when mum had her period we talked of the why this was happening , often mum was in pain and the why was explained . It was in our home just a natural process which all women will experience.
I also in trying to live a wholesome & natural lifestyle purchased hand made flannel pads and discovered the sponge ! These sponges are not sold in Canada any longer I believe because of the danger of toxic shock syndrome . However if one just like with a tampon removes within the proper time frame and cleans the sponge properly ( wash with warm soapy water & boiling your sponge will do the trick ) I discovered small sea sponges at pet stores they are used to store water for crabs and the price is very inexpensive .
When my eldest dd was between 12-13 yrs of age I purchased her a book just titled Period it was great it had so much info and what she really liked was it had a cut out of a life sized uterus you could cut out and place on your body so you'd know where your own uterus is .
My dd girlfriend's family went a step further and had a coming of age party for their dd. They gave her a necklace with a deep red stone to symbolize her entry into womenhood .
Most aboriginal cultures and ancient cultures would do this have some type of ceremony & ritual for girls when this experience happens for them .
I'm not sure of the why in a society that promotes sexual independence and responsibility we are still seeing menstruation in a negative light .
I hope maybe more women will speak up about this and those big companies will change their advertising tactics . I mean it is an insult to we women who worked so hard to try and rid the world of those negative stereotypes we need to speak up.
I found some neat websites while looking up this topic one of which has some great colouring pages for fertility goddess
there is also a book titled Honoring Menstruation I've not read it but it has great reviews and looks good .